The Ten New Laws of Love
the Heart of Our Teachings: Ten natural "new" laws of love -- perhaps
the most powerful breakup-prevention program available today. We
hope they move you by what is truly possible, and inspire you to
begin creating your own NewCouple.
The First New Law of Love
is the magic, the special energies that signal partners possess
the raw material for success. Chemistry is not optional because
it provides the synergy couples need to get through the rapids of
relationship -- and keep them high on course to their grandest goals.
The Second New Law of Love
is a couple's commitment to keep the health of their relationship
front and central. It asks partners to begin to psychologically
"leave the nest" of their first families -- and to address any compulsions
and addictions, including codependence -- in order to be fully available
to their second family.
Integrity: The Third New Law of Love
Integrity asks partners to create an "emotional safe zone" with
each other. They do this by taking responsibility for their feelings
-- especially by learning the difference between "acting them out"
and expressing them healthily. This law also guides partners in identifying and healing blind spots and
"buttons" that cause disharmony in all relationships.
Listening: The Fourth New Law of Love
Listening is the greatest act of love -- and a skill. It is partners'
ability to hear each other's words, and the feelings underneath,
with compassion and empathy.
The Fifth New Law of Love
is about fairness and respect. It involves acknowledging power imbalances
in the relationship and helps partners see through the tyranny of
unnegotiated -- and often antiquated -- roles, responsibilities
and unconscious expectations.
The Sixth New Law of Love
is a couple's commitment to maintain their emotional safe zone through
the use of anger management and conflict resolution tools and New
The Seventh New Law of Love
landmines are precise gauges of pockets of low self-love and unfinished
emotional business from childhood. This law teaches partners how
to deeply defuse conflict and fall back in love with everyone.
in Life: The Eighth New Law of Love
law teaches that true love cannot be sustained until both parties
are on some level engaged in his or her own true work. Mission in
Life is partners' commitment to the fulfillment of their own and
the other's life purpose. Intimates are either a mission's most
powerful support or its most formidable saboteur.
The Ninth New Law of Love
involves addressing the primary insecurities that plague all partners,
because emotional and financial dependencies can mean slow death
-- of respect, trust and passion. When intimates are willing and
able to leave the relationship if need be, it's their best insurance
that they won't!
Education: The Tenth New Law of Love
Education is the fail-safe mechanism of the Ten New Laws of Love.
It represents partners' commitment to do whatever learning and healing
is necessary if they get stuck on any of the first nine laws.